HOT TIPS FOR REVIVING A COLD LOVE LIFE

Jack Meijer asked:


“Distance makes hearts grow fonder” is a familiar adage. But in times when everything changes by the second, this adage sparks a doubt in the mind. Whether long distance makes hearts grow fonder or make memories feeble is subjective. However it cannot be denied that keeping the spark of romance alive in a long distance relationship is a difficult feat. Here are some tips that will help you keep the long distance romance alive and kicking.

Communicate regularly: It is important to device a way to keep in touch regularly. The more you communicate the better it is for your relationship. You may be busy with your work, but make sure you spare some time for your sweetheart.

Using social media websites: social media websites make room for public displays of affection. While it is not possible to do it literally in a long distance relationship, you can do it virtually. Tell the world about your relationship. Pull out all the couple photographs and put it up on social networking websites.

Send gifts: Though sending gifts overseas is a costly affair, it is worth doing it once in a while. Your gift itself may not be expensive, but the fact that you have spent a lot and taken the trouble to send it for someone living thousands of miles away speaks volumes about your commitment towards the relationship and your love for the person.

Surprise your partner: Surprises are a great way to express love. You can surprise your partner either by going to meet him/her without prior notice, by writing something romantic online or by sending a video of you singing for him/her.

Relate to a common interest: there may something that both of you are interested in. It may be watching movies, hitting the gym or a particular dish. While you will not be able to do it together, do it wherever you are and share your experiences. This is a great way to enhance your romantic bond.

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Paul R Turner asked:


So, when is the last time you saw a book claiming to be full of romance and quotes? They aren’t hard to find, and it’s for a simple reason: there have been countless memorable romance quotes uttered and written throughout the centuries, and the greatest, most famous love quotes are often recorded and repeated for years and years. There’s just something about romance that make couples feel good about themselves and their relationships.

But what if I told you that all of those famous quotes you find in books and on the Internet really aren’t the greatest or most romantic words at all? While it’s fine to look at history for inspiration from the most quoted words of romance, in fact the most consequential romantic love quotes are the ones that you and your lover say to each other on a daily basis. I know, I know: sometimes it seems like the daily things you do and say in the course of your relationship are extremely mundane and run-of-the-mill. But believe me, the inspiration for famous romantic movies and novels is found in equally commonplace relationships!

It really doesn’t matter if the romantic words you say to each other in your relationship are the kind of poetic quality as the love quotes in romance novels or on the big screen. Literature and movie scripts often overdo things, and if you said some of the love quotes from Shakespeare to your sweetheart, it would probably get you some pretty strange looks. What really matters is if you make sure your feelings and respect for your lover are made apparent every day in the words you speak to them.

Even if your most romantic love quotes don’t go beyond “I love you,” those three words hold more significance to you and your sweetheart than all of the romance novels and movies in the world. What matters is not the actual love quotes that you use, but rather the romantic sentiments, feelings and actions that are behind them. How you show your romance is far more significant to your relationship than the words you use to communicate those feelings.

The next time you read a romance novel or watch a romance movie, don’t get jealous or feel inadequate when you hear amazing love quotes from the characters. Those lovers are not real people, but you and your significant other are. The love quotes you utter to each other are far more important to your relationship. Don’t judge your own romance by what other couple on the screen or in books say to each other; instead, judge the success of your relationship be how happy you and your sweetheart really are!

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Susan Willis asked:


These days, there are a lot of great ways to meet new people for a romantic encounter or to start a relationship: online dating sites, Internet chat rooms and speed dating events have been added to the more traditional ways of meeting a potential mate such as bars, vacations, work and through introductions from friends.

However, meeting someone new is just half the battle. Doing a little homework now could mean the difference between romantic bliss and getting stuck with the relationship equivalent of a lemon.

Here are 8 questions to ask yourself:

Question 1: Do you excite each other physically?

It is important that you feel physically attracted to one another. Reason: some people who are feeling desperate to find a mate might resort getting serious with someone who seems to be a “great person” but for whom they lack any attraction. Big mistake!

Question 2: Is it easy to keep a conversation going?

After a couple of years have passed, most couples report a cooling off in their *** life. It is at this point that it becomes particularly important that you actually find each other interesting to be around, not just nice looking or good in bed.

Question 3: Do you have similar standards of hygiene and cleanliness?

Maybe your mate looks well-groomed in public, while their workplace or home remains a perpetual pigsty. If this is so and you are someone who prefers things to be spot-free, you could be heading for trouble.

Question 4: Are you accepting of each other’s religious beliefs?

As the world gets smaller, people are increasingly marrying outside of their faith. While it is not important that you agree on all things religious, it is important that both of you are accepting of any differences of belief you have.

Question 5: Do you feel comfortable around each other’s families and friends?

When you get into a serious relationship with another person, you have little choice but to link into their family and friend network. When you do, stay in tune with how you feel when around them.

Question 6: Are you on the same page financially?

Money can be one of the biggest sources of anxiety for people in relationships. Some people tend to be savers, while others tend to spend. Neither way is inherently wrong, but it is helpful if the two of you manage money in a similar way.

Question 7: Do you hold similar views about the importance of having children?

If the female member of your relationship is still of a child-bearing age, you owe it to yourselves to have a talk about how each of you feels about having kids; you want to avoid finding yourself at an impasse on this issue down the road.

Question 8: Are you able to accept the other person’s political views?

Some couples are able to peacefully ignore any political differences between them: after all, do any two people on the planet see exactly eye to eye on all things political? Be cautious, however, if you are not accepting of each other’s views.

Okay, go ahead and tally up your “yes” answers and check the chart below to see how you did.

8 Yeses: Stop what you are doing and book a trip to Vegas right now!

6-7 Yeses: You have a very good thing going on here. Be sure to keep your eyes open for any potential deal-breakers and, meanwhile, have fun with it!

3-5 Yeses: Proceed with caution. Sure, things could work out with this person, but why chance it? Stay open to the possibility that there is someone even more suited to you out there.

0-2 Yeses: Run away while you still can and do not look back.

Is it wise to trust the future of your love life to a quiz you found online? You know better than that. But, before you discount the results, think again. Most people who have been in relationships that have lasted for more than a few months will tell you that there are certain things that just have to be right for the relationship to last.

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Karen Monteverdi asked:


Looking at romance: The United States as a population love romance. 64.6 million Americans read at least one romance novel in the past year according to Readership Statistics Romance Writers of America published in 2007.

Romance Literature Statistics: Overview

Explore the results of Romance Writers of America’s market research study on romance reader demographics and the romance fiction industry. These statistics offer insights to help you share in this billion-dollar-a-year industry.

Romance Sales

(source: Business of Consumer Book Publishing 2008)

Romance fiction generated $1.375 billion in sales in 2007

Approximately 8,090 romance titles were released in 2007

The common theme of Conscious living that I use as a coach is summed up in this statement: It is what you say it is.

During a current seminar series through a national education company one the topics was relationships. Our purpose was to figure out where we have been inauthentic in our relationships. Then share with others. Like a lot of the participants I went into the series hoping to find some new and unique ways to put romance back into my life.

What came out of the first assignment was a distinction of what romance was to me.

I saw it as most people do; a walk on the beach, relaxing on a Sunday afternoon at our favorite bistro talking about love and dreams. It all felt very dreamy.

I came home to create that candle light dinner, putting on soft music. Thinking about sitting together over a ‘romantic dinner’ it came to me this was not a true expression of my desires through romance. When I started looking at it, I was completely surprised that this was not all what I wanted in my relationship. I realized this was a place where the world of media taught me what romance was.

I began to define what I truly wanted, the fact it was romance was already present in my relationship.

It was a look, a touch, a playful interaction as we walked past each other through the house. It was that we would come to each other with our successes and failures. It was the love and support that created the bond of closeness. It is walking through the streets of Portland holding hands. It is the kindness of offering me a glass of water when he see’s I’m struggling with an issue. When I talked to my husband Sean about these things, his response was similar and this was romance in action!

The key that really helped me understand what romance was to me was when the coach at the seminar stated we are 100% responsible for our relationships. Through other workshops and seminars I have taken I knew exactly what that means.

Today I heard something from best selling author Harvel Hendrix that stated when we take 100% responsibility for how our relationship is going, our partner transforms before our eyes.

It is true, when we hold the another person accountable for our experience in life through blame, shame, needs not being met that we begin to break down our relationships.

After Sean and I discussed what I became aware of together we reaffirmed we already have the love we want. The romance that stirs our souls, the joy and bliss of a relationship of our dreams already exists for us!

Tonight we decided to begin a discussion group on relationships here in Portland. I am grateful for all my experiences in life that have brought us to this bountiful place of life and love in action.

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Jaci Rae asked:


R = River rafting;
Roaming my body;
Rustling under the sheets;
Rendezvous;
Remunerating the reasons you love me.

O = Oven baked bread;
Owing no money;
Objective reasoning.

M = My needs first;
Mowing the lawn for me;
Moving your hips.
Meeting your gaze.

A = A few moments of quiet after I come home;
Apple of your eye;
Adulation from time to time.

N = Nice deep backrubs;
Not having to ask what I did wrong.
Nothing needs to be fixed, honey.

C = Coming home to your hug and smile;
Clatter and chatter control;
Curvature of your body.

E = Early morning instead always at night;
Effective communication;
Each moment you’re in my arms.

Taken directly from Dictionary.com
“Ro – mance Audio pronunciation of “romance.” ( P ) Pronunciation Key (r-mns, rmns) n.
1. A love affair. Ardent emotional attachment or involvement between people; love: They kept the romance alive in their marriage for 35 years. A strong, sometimes short-lived attachment, fascination, or enthusiasm for something: a childhood romance with the sea. 2. A mysterious or fascinating quality or appeal, as of something adventurous, heroic, or strangely beautiful: “These fine old guns often have a romance clinging to them” (Richard Jeffries). 3. A long medieval narrative in prose or verse that tells of the adventures and heroic exploits of chivalric heroes: an Arthurian romance. A long fictitious tale of heroes and extraordinary or mysterious events, usually set in a distant time or place. The class of literature constituted by such tales. 4. An artistic work, such as a novel, story, or film, that deals with sexual love, especially in an idealized form. The class or style of such works. A fictitiously embellished account or explanation: We have been given speculation and romance instead of the facts. Music. A lyrical, tender, usually sentimental song or short instrumental piece. Romance: the Romance languages.

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G. J Bajaj asked:


Seasons do have influence on the moods of human beings (HUMAN stands for Handsome or Ugly man, BEING stands for Beautiful but Exploding woman). HU & BE, the greatest creations of God, gets lunatic with drizzling rains. The reasons are obvious. The king of seasons, rains bring resurgence in the writings of authors and poets. Rains take them to poetic tour, making them unleash the moist romance.

Prose penned on paper
Presents poetic panorama
Poets write odes
Authors write drama

The smell of soil, seduces the brain cells of the authors and their writings in the form of prose spurt out with rhymes. And the poetry gets real charm as the rains are harbingers of romance as well as romanticism.

The sophisticated people, always careful of their press ironed costumes, forget all the protocol and run and dance impromptu and freely in the rains. The romantic rains and clinging clothes provide them soapbox dais wherein they can bring out the naughty child in them.

Rains have magical effects not only upon fresh youth, but also on the stale old people. Well now we shall pull the curtain, I mean umbrella on the rain, as other seasons too help HU & BE make love in different style and stature.

The Great Almighty has given the liberty and provided an extra-special facility to all the males and females to enjoy love in abundance, both indoor and outdoor. Just see how far-sighted and fore-sighted He is, in creating two different seasons called ‘winter’ and ’summer’.

Winter, go in. Summer, come out.

Yes, in winter quilts, fire places provide you necessary heat. Open your heart near the hearth and get the warmth.

And in summer, why merely open the hearts, you can come out openly on the terraces, beaches and gardens to combat with the hot sunrays.

In the spring, the nature springs out with lot of zest to display its colors. Budding to blossoming of flowers, male species of many type of fish become bright colored to attract females; animals, birds all set examples of romantic mood, the spring is the season of romance.

In the fall, birds gather in flock to migrate. Autumn suggests to the human being, ‘migrate, go for excursions, enjoy in this romantic world’.

But despite all His provisions, if the people refrain from enjoying their lives on the pretexts of ego, jealousy, rage and hatred, someone else might steal the cheese. Here I don’t mean promiscuity or adultery! I mean that our writers of romance novels might steal the topics, subjects for their writing.

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Anna Mara asked:


If you can answer, ‘Yes’ to 3 or more of the following, then you’re a romance book addict, just like me. I’ve done all of these things… so see how many you can relate to…

· Have you read so many romance novels that you can’t bear to part with any of them? Consequently, your bookcases are full and you’ve started shoving them under couches, in microwave stands and under beds because you have no more room to put them in?

· Do you love your romance novels so much that you can remember which romances you’ve lent and to whom; and when they’re not returned on time, you get annoyed and actually ask for them back?

· When you’re in between books, do you get such a physical, overpowering craving to read a romance novel that you have to go out and get one ASAP? Is the craving as strong as your craving for chocolate and caffeine?

· When you read a romance in bed, do you ever look over at your ’significant other’ snoring away beside you and want to smash the book over his head because he just doesn’t ‘get it’?

· Do you have a special secret stash of romances you call ‘Keepers’? These are the books that are sooo good you would never part with them, no matter what and you read them again and again when you’re in the mood?

· Have you read and re-read your Keepers so many times that the pages are all dog-eared and some are even stuck together with coffee stains?

· Have you ever read a romance book while cooking at the stove and a) overcooked the spaghetti or b) burnt the burgers or c) charred the peas?

· Have you ever left a kettle full of boiling water on the stove and forgotten all about it because you were so engrossed in your romance book? Did every drop of water evaporate and you only realized what was happening when you heard crackling coming from the empty kettle on the hot burner because the metal was melting?

· Is the romance novel you’re reading so good that you’ve gone deaf and can’t hear your husband or kids calling you?

· Have you ever been so captivated by a romance story that you forgot to call your mother and the poor woman (the one who cleaned your pee, pooh and puke until you were 18 years old and is still helping clean up your messes today)… that woman… was waiting patiently by her phone for your call and was getting worried when she didn’t hear from you?

· Have you read so many romance books in your life that you can tell from the first two pages whether a novel is a ‘Dud’ or a ‘Keeper’? And have you read so many romances that your high standards have now made you very picky about what you read… and you’re finding more Duds than Keepers at the bookstores lately?

· When you find a Keeper, are you heartbroken when you know you’re on your last chapter because the book was sooo good but now it’s going to end and then what will life be like for you???? Do you go through a mini-depression when you come to the words, ‘The End’ because it feels like you’re leaving old friends behind?

· Have you ever spent hours online, surfing romance book websites and looking for recommendations from other readers on books they consider Keepers that you may want to read next?

· When you’re reading late at night, do you just have to read one more chapter before you go to sleep… and then just one more after that… and another after that… until you realize that it’s 3am and you have to be up at 6am to go to work… but you just don’t care?

Okay… face it… you’re hooked! If you’ve answered ‘yes’ to 3 or more of the above, then you’re addicted to romance novels, as I am. But it’s a good addiction, so enjoy it and have fun! It’ll be our little secret.

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